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platonic relationships
Sunday, March 19, 2006

Is it possible?

I have many unanswered questions in mind. Well, mostly nonsensical and useless..Anyhow, since young, I've always been curious about how the human mind works. How can homosapiens, simple organisms who live, breathe, sleep,eat, multiple and die, have such complicated lives? Especially when it concerns matters of the heart.

Like, how can a healthy, perfectly normal man be in love with another man? How some adults are simply obsessed with children, sexually or not, I don't know.

But these are issues that are beyond me. I can't relate to them(my friends will insist on me being a perverse peodophile, but I'm not!) and I really want to know why such absurb stuff happens. Has it got anything to do with the environment one lives in? Is it a generic illness? Or for that matter, how one's parents bring them up. I guess the actions and activities of parents DO affect their offsprings in their later years. Still, what triggers the minds of some people to do what most of us would deem abnormal?

Right, I think I digressed too much. I was actually going to discuss the possibility of a platonic relationship between a guy and a girl. In lay man's term, can a guy and a girl be close friends, so close they are like best friends who share everything with each other, and yet not develop any sort of romantic feelings towards each other.

For me, I don't think it's possible at all because these two people may not have the same wavelength. You know, their 'friendship' could be filled with so much memories, times together..sorrows that they poured out to each other..secrets that they painstakingly kept close to their hearts..promises that they vowed to keep. They are supposed to be best friends, I know, and it's only natural that they have such a special relationship. But while one party see this relationship as just a wonderful friendship with the opposite sex, the other may just take all these beautiful stuff as a relationship that's more than just friends.

Misunderstandings are bound to happen and even if there're such 'friendships' out there, I don't think it'll last. No offence, but I seriously think that once someone confesses his or her true feelings, they won't be as close because the trust is then sort of off-balance.

Well, if both feel the same way about each other, then good for them! I mean..it's not everyday you find your soulmate who happens to be your best friend.

All that being said, I DO think that it's possible for a man and a woman to have a platonic relationship IF they were once a couple. As in, in a relationship together.. Because then, everything changes..As couples, they confide in each other and practically know everything about the other half. They've reached a level where it's beyond friends but yet, not shortchanging themselves of the benefits of having a best friend. When they break up, AND there's mutual understanding of their separation AND all is forgiven and forgotten AND, most importantly, when all feelings of each other as a couple fade away..THEN a platonic relationship between these two is possible. If they are still friends, that's it.

But if they weren't a couple to begin with, then it's a whole different story.

Anyway, this is just what I think and I don't think I'm 100% accurate. After all, I'm not speaking from experience because I don't have a guy friend that close. Purely my own thoughts.

YEah well, this kind of crap occupies my memory space when I have nothing to do. Actually I do have something to do. Chiong desperate housewives! But my mom's watching her canto drama and have for sis to complete her hols homework before I can watch! So here I am..flooding my blog with such erm...intellectual crap.

Oh yeah, before I forgot..I know I'm like 2 days late? But still...

HAPPY 3RD ANNIVERSARY TO HUIJEEN AND JIAYONG!!

I really admire this couple! 3 years ain't no simple feat and they've gone through so much together..So, I wish them happiness and bliss together til eternity!! I actually so see them being together in the future! Hahaha..waiting for invitation card.

Yes, huijeen, I put the bolded words in pink because you LOVE pink..

P.S. Bintang Di Surga is such an addictive number!! I keep repeating it the whole time I was writing all of this and I'm still not sick of it! Can anybody translate the lyrics into english because obviously, I don't understand indonesian malay..

12:18:00 PM